You’re studying for a degree in social sciences. What was the motivation? As a back-up in case this didn’t happen, or to expand your mind?
Not as a back-up. There’s something, mentally speaking, about having a back-up that’s not good. It’s to expand my mind, and I always wanted to have a BA. It’s an Open University course. One of the most interesting things I’ve learned is about social displacement. It usually happens when people don’t have much money and they’re treated very disposably. It feels like we’re going backwards. It doesn’t feel like all for one and one for all at the moment. The people who have more are able to get more. And then there are still people who are dying because they can’t afford to eat or have heating in England, which is horrific.
Forced heteronormativity is Millie Brown feeling the need to delete an Instagram post of a picture of her and Finn Wolfhard at a premiere, with a caption about how much she loves him as a friend and co-worker, because people won’t stop insisting that “Fillie” is real. Forced heteronormativity is this poor girl feeling the need to APOLOGIZE for giving people the wrong impression when she did nothing of the kind, and how her fans choose to wrongfully interpret her relationship with her costar(s) is not her fault.
I saw this happen when the Harry Potter cast was younger and interviewers were constantly asking teenage Emma Waston if she would date either Daniel Radcliffe or Rupert Grint. She always deflected, but to be asked this time and time again about guys who were more like brothers to her must have been exhausting.
I saw this even more recently (and okay, this is an example of something else but in the same vein) with Glee’s Darren Criss and Chris Colfer, whose friendship was strained to the point of being unable to hang out in public together due to rabid “CrissColfer” shippers, who could not accept that Kurt and Blaine were only an onscreen couple and went so far as to openly hate on Mia Swier and Will Sherrod for being involved with Darren and Chris because they were “keeping them apart.”
How would you feel if people were constantly telling you how great a couple you and your best friend would be, when you knew the entire time that you did not and could not imagine feeling anything romantic toward them? At first you might laugh it off, but if too many people kept on bringing it up and insisting that the two of you should date, you’d get annoyed and uncomfortable pretty fast. It might even affect your relationship with your friend, which would be a terrible shame, all because people couldn’t just shut up about what THEY wanted to see.
I can’t control what fans of any show or film franchise do anymore than the actors involved can. But I wish SO much that people would remember that IT IS PERFECTLY FINE AND HEALTHY FOR CHILDREN TO HAVE PLATONIC RELATIONSHIPS WITH OTHER CHILDREN, REGARDLESS OF GENDER OR HOW “CUTE” EVERYBODY THINKS THEY WOULD BE “TOGETHER.” PUTTING PRESSURE ON THEM TO DATE, KISS, GET MARRIED ETC, EVEN AS A JOKE, IS UNSOLICITED, INAPPROPRIATE AND DISRESPECTFUL.
Ship people in your head if you like, that is fine. But don’t hound the actors with questions about who they would date out of their cast when they’ve already made it clear that they DO NOT have that kind of relationship with anyone in the cast.
Remember, “Mileven” is real and both Millie and Finn are big fans of their characters’ relationship. But that is where it ends.
And it happened. I finally made an effort in writing and publishing
something.
I came up with this idea, then came across Prompt #16 of prompts4all,
and just had to put it down into words.
It’s my first work in English, and I’m
not an experienced writer.
A huge thanks to Byzinha, my long time friend and awesome writer. I need to say
her stories are a big inspiration for me, I love the way she portrays our
favorite characters. Thank you for encouraging me and taking your time to
revise this.
rules: tag nine people and bold the statements that apply
APPEARANCE: i am 5′7″ or taller | i wear glasses/contacts | i have at least one tattoo | i have at least one piercing | i have blonde hair | i have brown eyes| i have short hair | my abs are at least somewhat defined | i currently have/have had braces
PERSONALITY: i 😍 meeting new people | people tell me that i’m funny | helping others with their problems is a big priority for me | i enjoy physical challenges | i enjoy mental challenges | i’m playfully rude with people I know well | i started saying something ironically and now I can’t stop saying it | there is something i would change about my personality
ABILITY: i can sing well | i can play an instrument | i can do over 30 pushups without stopping | i’m a fast runner | i can draw well | i have a good memory | i’m good at doing math in my head | i can hold my breath underwater for over a minute | i have beaten at least two people in arm 🤼 | i know how to cook at least 3 meals from scratch | i know how to throw a proper 🥊
HOBBIES: i enjoy playing sports | i’m on a sports team at my school or somewhere else | i’m in an orchestra or choir at my school or somewhere else | i have learned a new song the past week | i work out at least once a week | i’ve gone for runs at least once a week in the warmer months | i have drawn something in the past month | i enjoy writing | fandoms are my #1 passion | i do or have done martial arts
EXPERIENCES: i have had my first 😘 | i have had alcohol | i have scored the winning goal in a sports game | i have 👀 an entire season of a 📺 show in one sitting | i have been at an overnight event | i have been in a 🚕| i have been in the 🏥 or ER in the past year | i have beaten a 🎮 in one day | i have visited another country | i have been to one of my favorite band’s concerts
MY LIFE: i have at least one person i consider a “best friend” | i live/lived close to my school | my parents are still together | i have at least one sibling | i live in the united states | there is snow right now where i live | i have hung out with a friend in the past month | i have a 📱 | i have at least 15 📀’s | i share my room with someone
RELATIONSHIPS: i’m in a relationship | i have a crush on a celebrity | i have a crush on someone i know | i have been in at least 3 relationships | i have never been in a relationship | i have asked someone out or admitted my feelings to them | i get crushes easily | i had a crush on someone for over a year | i have been in a relationship for at least a year | i have had feelings for a friend
RANDOM 💩: i have break-danced | i know a person named jae | i have had a teacher with a last name that’s hard to pronounce | i have dyed my hair | i’m listening to one song on repeat right now | i have punched someone in the past week | i know someone who has gone to jail | i have broken a bone | i have eaten a waffle today | i know what i want to do with my life | i speak at least 2 languages | i have made a new friend in the past year
I’ll tag no-one because I don’t really have any friends on Tumblr except for the one who tagged me in this. oh well…
It’s interesting and fun, though, keep ‘em coming @breakthestrutura!
